Staying Friends With An Ex Is The Worst Idea Ever, According to Psychologists

Staying Friends With An Ex Is The Worst Idea EVER, Says Science

Think twice before you make that date with your ex.


I have exes who I’m still friends with and exes I’m most certainly not friends with. I can’t say that I sway one way over the other with this issue.


I treasure one of my friend-exes and can’t see my life without him, while another of my friend exes … well, let’s just say if he disappeared from my life forever, I wouldn’t grieve.


I had an ex whom I tried to stay friends with, but when he disrespected — not just me, but all of his former flames — I had to let him go as a friend. Do I still look at his Facebook page? Sure. Not as often as I once did, but he’s part of the circulation when I’m checking in on various people.


Ending a relationship can be extremely difficult and if staying friends with your ex makes it easier, is that really wrong?


“Wanting to be friends keeps you from feeling the full depth of the loss, softening the blow of the breakup,” says Nina Atwood, therapist and author of Temptations of the Single Girl. You might think that it’s a good idea to stay platonic with a former lover, but there are many challenges, such as the feelings of emotional attachment.


Atwood says, “You may feel that this person knows you better than anyone else. Even if you’re not sexually attracted, you may still want the emotional intimacy that you shared.”


And this kind of dependency can make you more vulnerable to getting hurt all over again once your ex finds someone new — and they always find someone new. None of us enjoy the feeling that we’ve been replaced.


The transition from relationship to friendship can have all kinds of hidden dangers that can lead to more pain, according to relationship expert Lindsay Kriger. “Let’s be friends” may sound like a great idea, but it can be a lot harder to pull off in real time.


Kriger says, “What it doesn’t mean is ‘Let’s have a completely platonic relationship in which we ignore the feelings we had for one another, even the ones we still have.'”


OK, so staying real-time friends might not be such a great idea, but there’s probably not a problem staying Facebook friends. Right? Well no.


Kriger believes the most important thing to do once a relationship is over is to cut all ties and move on in order to allow yourself the chance to find happiness elsewhere. That means deleting his number, and yes, even blocking him on Facebook.


Juliana Breines, PhD of Psychology Today draws a strong connection between Facebook stalking and increases in jealousy and anxiety.


Ultimately, every situation is specific to each relationship, just like my exes. With some, there’s no problem with staying friends, and others I needed to cut out of my life — and that includes as Facebook friends.


Psychologist Karen Sherman says that a period of separation is critical before rekindling the friendship. It doesn’t have to be long, but it’s important to let the romantic aspects of your connection die down a bit before jumping into something as friends.


That’s all great, but a pint of ice cream is probably your best option here.



by Christine Schoenwald


Source: YourTango via Idealist4ever

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  2. It happened to me when once a guy I loved convinced me to stay friends after failing to make this relationship work though I was always against this idea. I don't know why I listened to him, maybe it is because he instroduced to his mother once so I said he was a good guy so it's ok to keep him as a friend but later on I discovered that I made a huge mistake of keeping him especially when I kept him as a friend on my Facebook.He never forget me and I couldn't forget him either and he started to make me jelous every now and then especially when I stoped commenting on every photo or post he shared .. he wanted me to keep loving him even if he doesn't want a serious relationship with me cos he isn't ready yet . I knew later on He was watching everything I do on social media and pretending he wasn't doin this . Everything was so clear to me that he was watching my moves specially when he used to call me after a post he shared and I didn't click like . He even called me once when I removed my pic on my watsapp profile , he thought I blocked him or something .. he tried so hard to keep me near him as a friend but every time he tried to show me that he could be my friend,he failed .. so finally ,I knew I suffered a lot and I always thought maybe one day we might get back together if I kept him as a friend but my expectations were wrong . Things got worse and I was fed up with him of calling me and texting me every other day and pretending to be my friend . Eventually,I had the courage to say to him stope and removed from my facebook friends. He got really angry and called me and asked me to be his friend again but We know deep down that you can't keep deceiving yourself and lying to it .

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  3. This is utterly useless and misleading, like reading from astronomy and expecting that the stars can predict you one of billions of people in that dot of billions who have existed since the start should do X. Platonic (still having sex) and friends (friend zone like relationship) are two very different things and sometimes we don't grieve coming from a guy and this advice seems to be only relevant for girls I feel that 5 minutes of my life I'm never getting back.
    These days you can't trust "Scientist says" posts anymore, please internet stop misusing the above.

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  4. This is total BS from a stereotypically female point of view...gimme a break!!!

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