Stop giving yourself to someone who doesn’t deserve you. Too often, love, or what appears to be love, blinds us to reality. We get caught up in the extreme emotions of romance and begin to see the world through rose-tinted glasses. These rose-tinted glasses mean that we refuse to see flaws in the character of our partner, we refuse to see if they don’t treat us right and are lost in a sea of desire.
This story is told over and over again. We are also more likely to fall into this trap if we have low self-confidence. This maybe is because that you are not used to having a partner who fawns over you, showers you with compliments and tells you they love you. Therefore, maybe you refuse to see any bad signs because you can’t bear losing that person. Or maybe your low self-confidence means that you believe you shouldn’t be treated properly and that you don’t stand up for yourself when wronged.
Know when it's time to leave
All relationships must be based on love, care, respect and decency. If you are not receiving those things, then it is time to leave. You should never be giving your life, your finite time and your self-respect to those who do not truly cherish you.
Now, of course all relationships have their ups and downs, people have arguments, and everyone will act less than perfectly. If we were to leave relationships anytime someone did something wrong there would be no relationships. What you must do is be is honest with yourself and attempt to see things as clearly as possible.
Define your boundaries
Know what your boundaries are, know exactly what you will not tolerate, know exactly what you want from a relationship. Then never settle for anything less. Never settle for poor treatment or for someone who doesn’t treat you as you wish.
But most of all, know your worth. You are a smart, beautiful person and you deserve the best. Never feel you must continue with a relationship out of misplaced loyalty or because you seek comfort in familiarity.
So, take a short-time to think, what do you want from a relationship and what are your red-lines, now you must stick to these no matter what. Stop giving your love to those who don’t deserve you, not only are you cheating yourself, but you are cheating others who may love you but can’t find you because you are stuck in an undeserving relationship!
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