Don't apologize for feeling broken inside. We've all been there at some point. We were hurt, traumatized, depressed. We didn't want to see anyone for days.
Collapsed in the corner of our mind, feeling completely and hopelessly broken. Not willing to try and get up and move one.
A devastating combination of self-pity and self-loathing is a dreadful time and space we may find ourselves. On the one hand you feel like drowning more and more into misery and on the other you feel guilty for doing so. But you don't know what to do.
Feeling broken is not only inevitable, it’s also normal and it’s okay. When you're hurt from love, you need some time to mourn. You can't just move on from one phase to another. You need your time. Take it.
Ever wonder what makes you, you? This question can lead down a never-ending road of spirituality, philosophy, even lead to an existential crisis. But understanding who you are is an internal process that will only make you stronger.
The understanding of what really makes us who we are isn't found in the people in our lives, the places we’ve been, the money we have earned, or goals accomplished. Although these things add value, they are not definitive. It's something sourced in our inner self. It takes a lot of personal effort, time spent alone, thoughtfully and constructively, to love and understand ourselves.
The things that turned you into a puddle of tears are precisely what you are made of. Waking up day after day and putting on your pants is all that is expected of you.
Since you have managed to do that and beyond, you're already legendary. Being broken is definitive due to its transformative nature.
People are often uncomfortable with the pain of others. Many can barely manage their suffering, let alone console someone else. They might suggest that you rush your healing. Quick, stop being broken, GET OVER IT.
They don't mean to, but these words can be extremely painful when the timing is wrong. And their advice is simply impossible. You can't JUST get over it. And that's ok. Feeling broken is okay because it is only temporary.
Be determined not to sink in your emotions. However, don't feel the pressure to come out until you are truly ready. Let the brokeness teach you, guide you, but not destroy you. Lessons take time, so don’t rush. You will be okay, even if it’ isn't right away.
If something makes you feel broken, it usually means at one point it made you feel alive and happy.
When you are at your worst, shame tries to trick you into pushing people away–don’t.
Whether you want to admit it or not you need to surround yourself with love and support.
No matter how much we believe that we know about what someone else has been through, we can never truly understand how it made them feel. There's a reason why some experiences are personal.
Feeling broken can bring out the worst in us. But instead of comparing, we can just accept that we all have felt a level of low that has shaken our core and redirected our life.
Together we are stronger.
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