Psychology Says: You Might Be Better Off Single

Psychology Says: You Might Be Better Off Single

One psychologist claims that staying single gives people a chance to “live their best, most authentic and most meaningful life,” while also stating that the idea of a blissful marriage is entirely myth.

At the American Psychological Association’s annual convention in Denver, professor Bella DePaulo challenged the widely accepted idea that marriage helps people live happier, longer or healthier lives.

“The available findings are telling. For example, research comparing people who have stayed single with those who have stayed married shows that single people have a heightened sense of self-determination and they are more likely to experience ‘a sense of continued growth and development’ as a person,” said Professor DePaulo.

She continues: “Other research shows that single people value meaningful work more than married people do … another study of lifelong single people showed that self-sufficiency serves them well: the more self-sufficient they were, the less likely they were to experience negative emotions. For married people, just the opposite was true.”

By looking at the numbers reported by the Office for National Statistics, we can see that just last year there were 16.2 million single people in the UK, versus 23.7 million married people. If we travel back to 2002, there were 12.5 million single people, and an almost identical 23 million married ones.

DePaulo says that the reasons more people are choosing the single life are “rarely acknowledged.”

“Single people are more connected to parents, siblings, friends, neighbours, and coworkers than married people are, and when people marry, they become more insular.

“The preoccupation with the perils of loneliness can obscure the profound benefits of solitude.

“It is time for a more accurate portrayal of single people and single life – one that recognizes the real strengths and resilience of people who are single, and what makes their lives so meaningful.”

DePaulo continues to explain that, while people who get married are often supported and celebrated by their friends, family and peers, being single often invites being targeted, stigmatized, and stereotyped by the same crowds.

She hopes that more people start to recognize the lack of evidence supporting the notion that marriage makes people happier and healthier, while also recognizing that we often invest too much time and energy into finding “The One.”

Source: Expanded Consciousness
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  2. I agree 100% with this articl. I've been single for over two years and couldn't be more content not having to worry about finding the one. I get to do what I want and not have to worry about being asked when I am coming home if I want to be out for two days I can.

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  3. ''Other research shows that single people value meaningful work more than married people do'' - well DUH, lol ,work is ALL they have ! And it says people are more insular when married. Yes, cause they don't need to constantly be with friends and parents even to not feel lonely ! They got their IT person for that,
    so ofc they'll not focus as much on as many people. This is such an amateur article. It has long since been proven scientifically that HAPPY couples, aka the ones that love each other, and not together out of some habitual convenience simply, live longer and happier more fulfilling lives. The problem is not that couples are less happy, the problem is that people don't build real genuine bonds of LOVE, they don't open up or trust, hence that kind of relationship will of course limit more than liberate the soul. THese ''psychologists'' are such amateurs at life, embarrassing !

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    1. I miss my partner! Life was a million times. Better!!!!!

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    2. I miss my partner! Life was a million times. Better!!!!!

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    3. Valerie D, I agree, this is a very shallow argument they have made. They need to look at the positives and negatives on both sides, not just one. (Obv. the writer herself is single) Both sides should be fairly looked at, and it's true many people these days don't create proper bonds and relationships. But I think it doesn't matter if your single, or married, or defacto or whatever, it's about what you need to make you happy. If that's with someone or by yourself why does it matter. People shouldn't judge your lifestyle anyhow.

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  4. there is no answer, gotta do what you feel, personally, I dont think that I will rest until persons are DEAD

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  5. he deserves this and he knows it , thats why its not painfull to me at all

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  6. he deserved to die he knows that!!! so do I

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  7. I miss having a life partner...was so much happier...had such a great happy life...w/ friends and family too...more laughs, fun, trips, sex,hugs... everything was better!!! better!

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  8. From experiencing both single and (currently) married life, both have ups and downs. At times when I was single I just wanted a partner to have fun with, talk to, sleep with...And now there are days that I want to be quiet, alone and not worry about being a courteous roommate.

    I love having a stable PIC that can offer support, compassion, commiseration, and a great lay. Inside jokes, shared experiences as well as household tasks, and having a life with a great view reaffirm that there is no other situation I'd rather be in.

    Conversely, in the married life, I don't like being misunderstood, being seen to have ill-intent or the bickering that arises. But, this shit is a journey, my partner and I grow both individually and as a couple every day. It takes effort, but what worthwhile things don't?

    Everyone is different and are able to thrive and be happy in different circumstances, despite the opinion of one psychologist. #NoRegrets #YouDoYou

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  9. What this article says to me is that one size doesn't fit all. This article says that one "might" be better off single; not "will" be better off. It's great that there are many happily married couples; there are also many that are not-so-happily married. Some comments on here are kind of silly. It's just a short essay offering an opinion. I, frankly, found it interesting.

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