If you're currently wondering if there is such thing as an extroverted introvert, I have to inform you that yes, there is. Not only there is, but there's also a possibility that you are one of them!
Extroverted introverts are people who aren't shy or antisocial at all. They are friendly and social, but they just can't be like that everyday. There are moments when they really need to be alone in their house. Of course, we all have our moments. However, extroverted introverts change their mood from 100% social to 100% antisocial really fast! If you want to know if you are one of them, you just have to read the following 10 basic characteristics of extroverted introverts:
1) Extroverted introverts are often quiet, but it doesn’t mean they don’t want to talk.
They most likely have plenty of thoughts they want to talk about, but think that they won’t interest you. They’d rather listen to you talk because they want to learn about you and they know you’d enjoy talking.
2) Extroverted introverts have no problem talking to strangers but when the conversation is just small talk they’d rather just go back to being alone.
They can hold a conversation for the most part, but small talk doesn’t keep their brain engaged in the conversation. Small talk is light and fun, but they like more deep conversations. Not to say they won’t ever engage in small talk, because they do, that’s part of life, but they always try to push it a little bit further and dig deeper. They want to the conversation to lead to them actually getting to know the other person.
3) Extroverted introverts make new friendships easily, but have trouble maintaining them.
When they’re in social mode, they find it easy to make new friends. Maintaining those friendships is another story. They find it hard to disperse their energy between lots of people. They save their loyalty and love for a select group of true friends.
4) Extroverted introverts are not anti-social, they’re selectively social
When you're an outgoing introvert it’s hard for you to meet people that you like. You can be simultaneously charming as hell, but also introspective and reflective to an annoyingly mind-numbing degree. You live inside your head, but can also be the life of the party - it all depends on the people surrounding you.
5) Extroverted introverts like weekend activities in limited doses.
They’re all about day-drinking on Saturday with a large group of friends as long as they can spend Sunday in their footie pajamas on the couch, not moving except to lift food to their mouths, press play on the Netflix remote, and lift even more food to their mouths.
6) It’s easier to write their thoughts than explain them out loud.
Writing allows them to edit their words and express exactly what they mean, whereas coming up with the right words on the spot in a conversation can be hard. Think texting instead of a phone call, and journaling instead of explaining. Introverts rely more on long-term memory than short-term memory (whereas extroverts use short-term memory more), and it takes longer to retrieve the specific words they want from long-term memory.
7) Extroverted introverts need their alone time, but they do get lonely.
People with this personality desperately value their alone time, but it can be hard to balance being alone with feeling lonely. They might want to go out because they feel alone, but they don’t want to leave the comfort of their home to do so.
8) Extroverted introverts get mad at themselves easily.
When a friend is begging an extroverted introvert to go out and they just can’t find the social motivation, you can bet they feel bad about it. They hate to let their friends down, and often drag themselves out to keep the people they love happy.
9) Extroverted introverts are constantly struggling to control their introverted side.
It’s frustrating for an extroverted introvert when they realize that they’re starting to withdraw. When they’re in a crowd and they become overwhelmed, their instinct is to retreat back into their own minds. It’s hard for them to control their introverted instincts and force a social response.
10) Maintaining friendships is a constant struggle for extroverted introverts.
At any given point, they have one or two best friends who are their entire world. They’ll connect with people very easily, that’s not the problem. Here's the thing, when they meet with someone, they’ll go out of their way to make that someone feel comfortable and happy, but it takes them a while to feel fully comfortably, so they can only take being around others incrementally.