tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7064777598104498166.post2070918338989450010..comments2024-03-29T02:31:01.798-07:00Comments on Thinking Humanity: The Toxic Attraction Between an Empath and a NarcissistUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7064777598104498166.post-75379728483240649012018-10-09T22:54:54.853-07:002018-10-09T22:54:54.853-07:00After being in relationship with Wilson for seven ...After being in relationship with Wilson for seven years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that don't believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I meant a spell caster called Dr Zuma zuk and I email him, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email: spiritualherbalisthealing@gmail.com or call him +2348164728160 you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or anything. CONTACT HIM NOW FOR SOLUTION TO ALL YOUR PROBLEMSJessica L. Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13408448099656902268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7064777598104498166.post-63211655665801121232017-06-09T20:36:55.559-07:002017-06-09T20:36:55.559-07:00just the article that i need, i just ended a 2-yea...just the article that i need, i just ended a 2-year relationship with a very charming narcissistic person.. you put all my confusions into black and white and finally understand that even how much loving i'll give him it will still not enough and will never ever be enough for him, he will always have needs that i will fall short of giving him.. i was such a positive happy person when we met and after all the drills, emotional and verbal pain i barely had the courage to get out.. all the confusion, depression, the roller-coaster of emotions that i had to go through, i finally decided to walk away.. and just in time i read this, to validate everything that i'm having a hard time to accept.. that walking away is the best choice.. to save me.. i have no energy to help him heal.. i need to heal myself first..<br />wanderlusthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13695062788659902779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7064777598104498166.post-3070736875265010702017-01-31T09:33:59.207-08:002017-01-31T09:33:59.207-08:00I feel that if an empath stops being overtly nice ...I feel that if an empath stops being overtly nice and instead of taking in the negativity, only focuses on the positivity things would change for better. <br />Bhavana Bajpaihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05186626243152874182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7064777598104498166.post-16085650840972923422016-08-10T15:12:44.149-07:002016-08-10T15:12:44.149-07:00Thank you for this article...it does really help a...Thank you for this article...it does really help a lot with understanding, accepting and fully moving on...talking from my own recent relationship experience...doing much better now....staying away and very strong to let anyone to destroy my empathy and positivity. It's hard to understand for empath how these people can do, say such things like nothing is happening and continue living and moving into other people lives just to destroy them too...all for selfish needs. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7064777598104498166.post-21714909393916396432016-07-14T03:47:12.238-07:002016-07-14T03:47:12.238-07:00I am an empath, and I am suffering a lot in the r...I am an empath, and I am suffering a lot in the relationship I am, that for a while I tried to find a way to get out, but I always stay. That's what I don't understand, why I am still with him when almost everything he does hurts me . I realised a long time ago that this relationship is not good for me, that I deserve more and still ,here I am preoccupied for him, trying to do all my best to make him better, and during time, I started to think that all the good inside me it's gone, that all my efforts for making him be better took all my strength and I feel like I can't raise again, that I am an awful person, full of anxiety, depression and maybe addiction to him. I tried so many time to end it and I couldn't, because every time I put his needs before mine's and I really feel that I am stronger than him and I can endure more,but also sometimes I say all my love and care he doesn't deserve and I should just walk away and heal myself. Strangely, I feel sorry for him, maybe I feel more sorry for him than for me, if I am keep trying to do my best to please him and help him. I know one day will end, I know I am not happy and I will not ever be able to, I cry a lot, I feel like I have no air, I feel down, some days I even hate myself, but I don't blame him for everything, he is like this and I choose to stay, I choose to be sad, I choose him and not me, so, it's my fault too. As long as I am accepting all he does I have to deal with my choice of staying and letting him hurt me,because I chose to let this happen. So, we can't blame just them, blame yourself for choosing to stay!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17892347402445349149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7064777598104498166.post-85979005031751058492016-03-04T16:33:00.863-08:002016-03-04T16:33:00.863-08:00Alex,
I have been searching for an article, advic...Alex,<br /><br />I have been searching for an article, advice, blog, column, anything with as much substance and guidance as yours. It feels like you were speaking about my past year long relationship, which just ended about 2 months ago (thankfully). I became the girlfriend trying to "fix" my narcissistic boyfriend for a soul-sucking year. My family, friends, co-workers even noticed and everyone had an opinion about this man. He was charming, loving, sweet when he wanted but when it came down to emotions he was blank, gone, distant, alone. <br /><br />I just want to say Thank You. This article fully validated my feelings about someone that is just stuck, and will never change.jolenebwhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17294373280401888997noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7064777598104498166.post-62912243570101042652016-03-03T14:34:06.536-08:002016-03-03T14:34:06.536-08:00very interesting and eye-opening, thank you (-: I...very interesting and eye-opening, thank you (-: I lived with a narcissist three years ago, he was a piece of shit that didn't do shit for the house so i was cleaning and taking care of the cats. then i moved to florida, eventually in with another narcissist, worse than the first one, took me 9 months to figure him out n get away from him, now i'm back with the first narcissist, trying to get my own place. your article is very insightful, thank you again for writing!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01178665641230423008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7064777598104498166.post-40463965897105486542016-03-03T10:17:11.034-08:002016-03-03T10:17:11.034-08:00I completely understand this... I've LIVED it....I completely understand this... I've LIVED it...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02056619691544598730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7064777598104498166.post-16112871222375773972016-01-02T15:53:43.127-08:002016-01-02T15:53:43.127-08:00Wow Chris, wow dharav,
Me too have stopt a recent...Wow Chris, wow dharav, <br />Me too have stopt a recent close friendschip, ...well it started close. Something that made me understand the mechanism is the enneagram. Dharav, if i read your writing i believe you know about it. The narcissist is a typical type 8 that enters the negativity of type 5. Type 5 is a rational type.<br />The problem with narcissist is they think they are empathic. But if they were how come they hurt people by crossing their line. In Dutch we say: they go over dead bodies. They don't care what their doings make you feel like. They think that they don't have to feel sorry about anything they do or say.<br />What i don't understand is why they keep thinking it's the other's fault if everyone around them abandons them, and then they make you feel bad that they haven't done anything wrong, even if you show them the facts, they don't get it. <br />But it's true, at first she was a very genuine person. She helped other people. But then she starts hurting them, as if she doesn't care what kind of attention she gets. It's a nasty personality type, that's for sure. <br /><br />The enneagram is definetely something to learn about.la Hymn: my Corporate menhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09000361190658441476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7064777598104498166.post-5192212373627732862015-12-22T11:01:27.328-08:002015-12-22T11:01:27.328-08:00A tend to agree esp when using the words for these...A tend to agree esp when using the words for these categories in a casual way. This author I think is not professionally qualified to discuss the true clinical narcissist. Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03067414886137475484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7064777598104498166.post-64023203125388985662015-11-18T23:37:22.215-08:002015-11-18T23:37:22.215-08:00Respected Chris, I salute your open mindedness.
v...Respected Chris, I salute your open mindedness.<br /><br />very few people with narcissistic personality take on teh courage to understand their maladaptive patterns and heal themselves into a healthy personality. I am trying to convince one person in my family who is very good otherwise, but has taken narcissitic traits to deal with his insecurities...i have tried repeatedly..but all attempts failed. So i respect your willingness to grow all the more<br /><br />And definately i empathise with your situation. I fully understand that , a person with narcissistic personality does not intentionally harm anyone. he actually believes he is behaving in a rational way. His emotional hurts & insecurities are unintentionally making him behave that way, in most cases. They are very genuine people otherwise. i understand that. YOu have shown the maturity to acknowledge the wrong direction your unconscious mind was leading you into..and that is damm cool.... i pray to God that you are able to soon heal you old wounds. and i am sure, because of your efforts, you will soon have a more positive & empowering personality than most people you know of. :-) Dharav Shahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07985224632808152249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7064777598104498166.post-11845943204541269622015-10-25T10:59:00.709-07:002015-10-25T10:59:00.709-07:00This was an interesting read from the other perspe...This was an interesting read from the other perspective. I'm a narcissist, and have been in therapy for a little over a year now for help with controlling my negative impulses, irrational or overblown anger, and despair. I gained the strength (yes, I say strength!) to end a going-nowhere relationship with someone who is a good person. She doesn't understand, but that's alright. Instead of finding my "meaning" from her or others, I have only to know that our relationship was hurting us both, and have that discipline to end it. I won't say people like me don't hurt other folks, because of course we do. I would beg a little more empathy, though - it's hard. harder than you'd believe, to start chipping awayat that nasty little feedback loop that leads to and facilitates people like me. Cheers.Sanglanthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00235456355753330014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7064777598104498166.post-57980197096420533252015-10-25T04:31:07.009-07:002015-10-25T04:31:07.009-07:00Yeah, I really feel like these roles can shift ove...Yeah, I really feel like these roles can shift over time, in a day, or in the middle of a conversation. I feel like my last relationship was two hurt empaths avoiding the habit of narcissism and never really doing anything but a spiral of enabling eachother into empathetic depression. We were both narcissists in our own ways too, but were too forgiving of eachother's coping mechanisms.BSGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11374940097779661574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7064777598104498166.post-77918899511198291142015-10-19T20:46:08.298-07:002015-10-19T20:46:08.298-07:00Has anyone ever thought of the empathic narcissist...Has anyone ever thought of the empathic narcissist or the narcissistic empath? These are real. Not so black and white. Roles flip and people play out many things in relationships. I find it better to take responsibility for oneself and leave labeling on the side. in search of olivehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12218567750466332892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7064777598104498166.post-55188507044880179752015-10-02T02:13:09.699-07:002015-10-02T02:13:09.699-07:00Yes i agreed, they need help, but i think people o...Yes i agreed, they need help, but i think people often forget to help themselves, we all have the ability to heal ourselves. It is not easy, and it will take time and maybe tears. We just have to believe. People should not underestimate themselves, there are allready enough of things and people in this society, who does that for us. We are what we are, and i think, it is our lesson to learn from our experiences. Maybe we people have to be more alone sometimes.. Turn off all electronics, sit quite for yourself, be you, no enterferrings. i am guilty of not doing that enough, but i like to take long walks without music. It has helped my mind alot. Remember when scars heals, the skin becomes thicker and stronger. Time is your friend :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00298583065637099788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7064777598104498166.post-38603669685402807572015-10-01T21:23:49.637-07:002015-10-01T21:23:49.637-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.PVPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05543821829300750371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7064777598104498166.post-48174047868193015172015-10-01T17:38:36.774-07:002015-10-01T17:38:36.774-07:00As a empath, i tried all above in the article and ...As a empath, i tried all above in the article and have failed miserably, no matter what you do, no matter how well you do for your partner, it is never enough! i am a positive individual but after my experience i feel lost, weak, confused, un-able to understand..... after doing some soul searching and i came across this article and now i feel in control. <br />People who are narcissist and leech off of other's need help, there's no other alternatives. we all have issues but you cannot go around damaging everything you touch, by the end, you will be all alone and lonely, exactly what you are afraid of. an empath will carry on but will carry the scars.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06158874467319046958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7064777598104498166.post-78481415103820187842015-09-24T20:06:09.106-07:002015-09-24T20:06:09.106-07:00all people young and old should learn to become wh...all people young and old should learn to become whole well rounded individuals. To constantly learn and improve all throughout their lives. no one should stick to their natural, habitual personality. In any personality, there are strengths and weaknesses, good and bad. one should aim to obtain all the strengths of all the types of personalities. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7064777598104498166.post-85629441321534049342015-09-16T11:35:54.683-07:002015-09-16T11:35:54.683-07:00Excelent article. I really do think young people s...Excelent article. I really do think young people should be taught more about how to recognize personallity types and to avoid be drawn into such a relationship. The books by Carol S: Pearson are very helpfulLinda Diane Russell Archerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14806668995281097615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7064777598104498166.post-55650568113897477472015-09-16T06:42:26.927-07:002015-09-16T06:42:26.927-07:00I am an empath and have suffered through a relatio...I am an empath and have suffered through a relationship with a narcissist. you will not get any responses from narcissists as it is not in their nature to see that that is what they are. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16009637885568099798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7064777598104498166.post-44103855912894370362015-09-16T06:42:14.211-07:002015-09-16T06:42:14.211-07:00I am an empath and have suffered through a relatio...I am an empath and have suffered through a relationship with a narcissist. you will not get any responses from narcissists as it is not in their nature to see that that is what they are. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16009637885568099798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7064777598104498166.post-53402607578307409272015-09-15T01:27:13.843-07:002015-09-15T01:27:13.843-07:00Thank you for making sense of something that didn&...Thank you for making sense of something that didn't make sense for a long time. I fully identify with this piece, it might as well be describing my last relationship (which i broke out of!! Woo!!) i would imagine a lot of people are feeling the relief i am having read this, thank you so much ❤❤❤ xxC. McAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04546347790360081841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7064777598104498166.post-56678291408769208022015-09-15T00:07:54.810-07:002015-09-15T00:07:54.810-07:00Best piece of work i read in a long time! Amazing ...Best piece of work i read in a long time! Amazing Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10916151799828221202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7064777598104498166.post-55439673337517902422015-08-20T09:04:09.902-07:002015-08-20T09:04:09.902-07:00Empaths need to be the helping professions where t...Empaths need to be the helping professions where there are strong boundaries between the helper & the helpee. In your personal relationships, some need to not have a front row seat to your life & need to be loved & forgiven from a distance only. "Good fences make good neighbours" whereas "an eye for an eye, only makes the whole world blind" (Gandhi)Alexishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17864923373750302927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7064777598104498166.post-27216699794790585682015-08-15T10:26:12.814-07:002015-08-15T10:26:12.814-07:00I believe people can be the empath or the narcissi...I believe people can be the empath or the narcissist depending on which relationship speaking. For example, I have a friend who is in a horrific relationship with a horrific narcissist. Instead of leaving the relationship victimizes herself even though she is in the position to get out of it if indeed that's what she wants. The Narcissist has told her several times to leave. Mean while, the empath in my tries to heal her and explain to her that she's more valuable than she believes she is and ends up sucking the life out of me watching her self destruct. When I am blunt and explain it to her, she retorts with buzz off I will make my own decisions. Basically wants to sit on a pity pot because the selfishness in her to hold onto someone who does not want her is stronger than what's best for her or her children. Others are stuck viewing this from the side lines with someone who has an excuse for every solution. <br />I do not believe that someone is an 'empath' or a narcissist to everyone. It all depends on which relationship an individual is in to define that role. Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14252287260338843551noreply@blogger.com